Have you ever noticed that when you just assume something that it can cause you or someone else a lot of drama or hurt, especially if you have assumed or thought something about someone that is wrong?
One of the Four Agreements is Don't Make Assumptions.
To ASSUME means you make an ASS out of U and ME. Do you really want that to happen?
We all have a tendency to make assumptions….about everything! If the cashier at the store is in a bad mood, we tend to get all pissed off thinking that she is pissed at us or being rude to us. But what if she just found out her dog died? We should not assume anything about her. If someone you tells you something, a secret/rumor, we should not assume it is true. If someone has different interests than you, you should not assume that they would not be interested in something that makes you happy, even though it may be totally different than what is going on in the other person's life.
The huge issue with assumptions is that we take them personally. We take them personally b/c we actually believe it is real or that it is the truth. If you do not assume things, then you wouldn't take everything so personally…and you wouldn't blame anyone for anything, and then your life would be so much more merrier. You could be an owner!!! An owner of your own emotions! An owner of your spirit.
Taking things personal isn't good at all. Not everything is about you, so stop assuming things and then you will stop taking things so personal as well.
Assuming things makes us suffer. It is better to ask questions, instead of assume. And just as that holds true in relationships, it holds true at work too, right? If you don't ask questions and you just assume things, you probably aren't going to get the job done right.
When you make assumptions, you are only asking for problems. In relationships, it leads to a lot of fights, a lot of difficulties, a lot of misunderstandings…
Another one of the Four Agreements is Don't Take Things Personal. It's hard to do, but if you try doing this, it really helps you live a better life...a happier one.
Taking things personal causes drama. Drama causes emotional poison. A lot of times we create our own drama. We gossip. We assume things about people... We take things personally. And we aren't impeccable with our word. (another one of the Four Agreements: Be Impeccable with Your Word)'
Ask questions, and you won't assume things. Make sure communication is clear. If you don't understand something, ask! Never assume you know everything there is to know about a given situation.' The odds are that you never will.
Everyone should read The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.
This material was taken from The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. I just wanted to share some of what I have read.
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